Yet most suffer in silence when things aren't quite right, often due to embarrassment. This awkwardness is particularly pronounced in menopausal and post-menopausal women compared to younger ones.
Far from discussing it with their doctor or friends, many feel too uncomfortable to even talk about it with their partner.
1 in every 4 menopausal women admitted they make excuses to avoid sex.
"I feel awful for my husband… he tries initiating, I don't reciprocate, and I pray he falls asleep"
Here's something that should be obvious, but somehow isn't:
Wanting a
fulfilling sex life is healthy and normal
AND,
menopause and
post-menopause are natural life stages.
Both are true and can absolutely go together.
Give us 4–5 minutes of your time and you'll discover exactly how you can stop being roommates and reconnect as lovers!
To begin, you need to understand what's actually happening in your body (hint: it's all connected):
The Real Reason: Hormonal Shifts
In straightforward terms, it's your hormones! But naturally, it's rather more complicated than that. Hormones play such a crucial role in your body that any shift creates cascading effects which show up in unexpected places.
Estrogen, Progesterone and Testosterone (yes, T! Remember this, we'll come back to it) are all important for sex drive as well as your body's response to stimulation.
All of these hormones decline with age, particularly after 40. Estrogen levels fall sharply at menopause while others decline more gradually.
This hormonal decline affects you in three important ways:
a. Physical Changes:
i. Drop in estrogen can lead to vaginal atrophy, thinning of vaginal tissues, reduced elasticity, and dryness.
According to the British Menopause Society, up to 80% of women experience physical and/or emotional symptoms during menopause, including vaginal dryness, discomfort during sex, and loss of interest in sex.
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ii. Weight gain and body composition changes during menopause can also lower a woman's energy and confidence.
b. Neurological Impact:
The brain is a woman's most important sex organ. And menopausal hormonal shifts can literally alter brain chemistry.
i. Estrogen affects serotonin and dopamine levels, which can dampen sex drive or arousal response.
ii. Hypothyroidism (common in midlife) can cause fatigue and low interest in sex.
c. Emotional Wellbeing:
Libido is closely intertwined with mental wellbeing.
Midlife psychological stresses, caring for aging parents, "empty nest" adjustments, or financial concerns can elevate cortisol.
Cortisol notoriously dampens libido by suppressing sex hormones.
The end result of all the above?
someone flicked a switch.
What Happens Next?
The social stigma and misinformation around libido and menopause is frankly shocking. The sad reality is that most women never end up getting proper support…
All of this can cause identity loss, as you wonder if that part of your life is over for good.
"So sad to think I'll live out the rest of my life, not enjoying one of life's greatest pleasures."
"I'm no longer the sexual being I was for 40 years of my life and I feel like I'm 12 again."
And on top of that comes…Guilt & Fear.
The guilt of saying no to a partner or worse, fear of sex becoming a source of conflict.
"I can feel my sexuality slipping away and that frightens me."
"I miss being that woman. The woman I was in my 20s."
Unfortunately, for the few women who do pluck up the courage to reach out for support, it can be even more frustrating.
According to a UK study published in npj Women's Health, 74.47% of women had discussed menopausal symptoms with a healthcare professional, but experiences were mixed, with themes of dismissive attitudes, poor treatment management, and the need for self-advocacy emerging from the data.
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Most doctors simply haven't been trained to fully address women's sexual health, especially when it comes to what happens in the bedroom. In fact, only 59% of UK medical schools include menopause education in their curriculum.
"At 40 I would have LOVED if a doctor told me what to look for, ahead of time."
"The lack of education surrounding menopause is mind-blowing… finding a competent doctor was incredibly difficult for me!"
And if you were among the lucky ones to have found a doctor who was comfortable having that conversation, you quickly discovered that the solutions on offer were at best underwhelming and at worst, potentially problematic:
Estrogen creams:
Don't work for many women. And they only help with physical symptoms, not desire itself.
Pills:
Even worse in terms of efficacy. Come with side effects like fatigue and dizziness. Best case scenario, they're overpriced sleeping aids.
Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT):
HRT has been gaining traction recently. While it has its own share of potential side effects like acne, facial hair, voice changes etc., HRT can help with menopause-related issues like hot flashes and night sweats. It may also help with vaginal dryness.
But that's typically where the benefits of HRT stop.
Remember we mentioned Testosterone earlier? Well this is where we bring T back into the discussion.
You see, in the US, only 2 forms of HRT are currently FDA-approved:
i. Estrogen only, or
ii. Estrogen + Progesterone
So, what's missing?
TESTOSTERONEThis is genuinely important, because testosterone is the only hormone specifically shown to boost postmenopausal women's libido.
Read that again. We'll wait.
The North American Menopause Society acknowledges that testosterone therapy can increase sexual desire in postmenopausal women with HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder).
In the United States, regulatory agencies haven't approved testosterone therapy for women.
– Mayo Clinic
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So, is there any hope at all or are menopausal and post-menopausal women destined for a sexless, guilt-ridden existence for the rest of their days?
There is.
Show Me What WorksThe Ancient Solution That Modern Science is Rediscovering
In Ayurveda, the ancient Indian wellness tradition, there's a natural solution.
It's quite difficult to find since it forms naturally only in the highest mountain peaks on Earth.
But it's a substance so revered that it's specifically mentioned in the Kama Sutra:
There are many stories around its origins, from the mythical…
"It was gifted by the Gods to humanity, as the 'Nectar of Immortality'"
…to the more practical:
"Villagers saw frail, sickly monkeys going up the mountains every summer, consuming the substance and returning strong and full of vitality."
This substance is Shilajit.
Its earliest mention is in Ayurvedic texts from the 1st millennium BC. And it has been rediscovered by many civilizations ever since.
All the way from Greece, where it was called Ozokerite, to Tibet where it was referred to as Brag Zhun, everyone knew about the mineral resin from the 'Indian mountains' that provided countless traditional benefits.
But let's come back to how Shilajit is relevant for you.
Isn't Shilajit Just for Men?
Shilajit is only for men who want to build muscle or need help down there.
Shilajit works great for both men and women. For some reason, nobody talks about the benefits that Shilajit has for women.
We honestly have no idea why.
Benefits of Shilajit for Women
Herbius® Shilajit is a game changer for midlife women's sexual wellness. Here's why:
Ups Desire & Reduces Stress
Shilajit has been shown to improve desire, arousal, lubrication, blood flow, orgasm and satisfaction. Amazing!
For women with declining hormone levels, this means Shilajit increases not just estrogen and progesterone, but also testosterone levels.
The result: improved desire, arousal, lubrication, blood flow, orgasm and satisfaction, plus a woman's physical and mental readiness for sex.
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Provides Energy & Stamina
Midlife women typically report energy dips that can affect desire. Shilajit improves resistance to fatigue and supports connective-tissue health, due to enhanced mitochondrial energy output.
Menopause-Specific Support
Whether you're dealing with vaginal dryness or discomfort during sex, Herbius® Shilajit helps with natural lubrication and combats inflammation.
Sounds promising, doesn't it? This is all based on well-researched information.
Science is just beginning to properly study this remarkable resin. And the more they study it, the more interesting findings emerge.
But Here's Where You Need to Be Careful
This is where many people go wrong.
Not all Shilajit is created equal
Because they assume that all shilajit is created equal, they hop over to Amazon or TikTok and pick up the cheapest shilajit they can find.
Big mistake!
Because reclaiming your sexuality shouldn't mean gambling on a mystery jar off Amazon.
You see, shilajit comes from mountain rock. And like everything that comes from the earth, it contains impurities.
What's more, with increasing levels of pollution globally, even pristine Himalayan peaks haven't been completely spared.
This means you need to be absolutely certain about the quality of shilajit you're putting in your body.
And that's why you need the expertise of Ayurveda AND modern science working together.
Why We're Different: Authentic Ayurvedic Expertise Meets Modern Testing
We must humbly state that we are specialists in Ayurveda.
Our in-house Ayurvedic practitioners know exactly where to source and how to purify shilajit, using time-honored techniques documented in ancient texts.
But we then verify the results using modern scientific tools, third-party laboratory testing.
Our Shilajit is Independently Tested THREE Times
First, at the raw material stage.
Second, at the finished product stage.
Finally, we test the final product again at a completely different independent lab, just to be absolutely certain.
We do all this to ensure that what you receive is genuinely premium-quality Shilajit with industry-leading Fulvic Acid content (80%+), the full range of minerals and without Heavy Metals or Toxins.
Certificate of Analysis included in every pack, so you can verify the quality yourself.
How We Compare to the Competition
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| Point | Herbius® Shilajit (Us) | Other Brands |
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| Developed by Ayurvedic specialists | Industry novices | |
| Third-party tested, THREE times | Maybe once? | |
| Physical 3rd party test certificate in every pack | ||
| Purified using Triphala-Sodhit method | ||
| Industry-leading Fulvic Acid content | ||
| Pricing | $20/month | $28/month |
IMPORTANT NOTICE:
We strongly urge you not to spend your hard-earned dollars with
companies that know nothing about Ayurveda.
They're likely being misled by suppliers, receiving
low-grade, substandard shilajit.
The product is ineffective at best or worse, may cause unwanted effects.
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Herbius® Shilajit – build your own ritual
Shilajit is definitely an acquired taste. But as you create your own ritual around taking Shilajit, it becomes much easier. In fact, those who use Shilajit regularly almost don't notice the taste anymore!
The best part about Herbius® Shilajit is that you can enjoy it with almost any beverage, teas, smoothies, your morning green drink, milk or even your morning coffee.
Or try our favorite method: scoop straight from the jar and chase with your beverage of choice!
In fact, having Shilajit with a health beverage may increase the benefits of that beverage. That's because in Ayurveda, Shilajit is considered a Yogavahi, a catalyst, if you will. This means it's traditionally believed to enhance the effects of whatever you take with it.
Please Note: Do not consume with alcoholic beverages.
Suggested Use: Take one serving (approximately rice-grain size, 300–500mg) once or twice daily, mixed in warm water, tea, coffee or milk. Best taken in the morning or early afternoon.
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Here's the bottom line.
Whether you're a 45-year-old mom juggling the home, 3 kids and a career OR, a 70-year-old woman who's fulfilled her responsibilities and is looking to make the most of her golden years.
You don't have to feel awkward about looking after yourself.
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Like you did in your twenties. Actually, even better (because why not?).
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FAQs
Shilajit is a semi-solid, dark-coloured substance. Formation begins with plant matter being buried underground at very high altitudes. Microorganisms break down this plant material and it further mixes with mineral components in mountain rock. Over centuries this mixture is subject to extreme pressure, temperature changes, and the unique mountain environment.
Thus, Shilajit is born. Given how it's formed, it can accurately be called the essence of the earth itself.
Shilajit has been traditionally used by both men and women. Big corporations have led us to believe that men and women simply cannot use the same wellness products, so they can sell us 2 products instead of 1.
In clinical studies, shilajit has been shown to increase female hormones (Estrogen and Progesterone) in women. In men, it increases Testosterone significantly; in women, by smaller amounts. That's the remarkable nature of this resin!
You could try them; however, the evidence is quite limited for all of them.
Maca is often marketed for libido support, but the most positive research signal is in medication-induced concerns. Broader libido results are inconsistent across small studies.
Black Cohosh and Red Clover: Both are primarily studied for hot flashes and vaginal discomfort. Large reviews conclude insufficient or modest benefit for these symptoms, and they don't consistently improve sexual desire itself.
Compare that to the research-supported benefits provided by Shilajit, and you have a clear choice.
Short answer: we don't, intentionally.
Resin is the original, minimally processed form of Shilajit that keeps all the full-spectrum active compounds intact and potent. And it avoids all the sugars, gums, and fillers that gummies and capsules require.
Shilajit is definitely an acquired taste. But as you create your own recipe and ritual around taking Shilajit, it becomes much easier. In fact, those who use Shilajit regularly almost don't notice the taste anymore!
Herbius® Shilajit is aromatic, pleasantly earthy, and designed to be stirred into almost any beverage of your choice, teas, smoothies, your morning green drink, milk or even your morning coffee (or taken straight and chased).
If you want genuine results rather than sweets, resin is the right choice.
Herbius® Shilajit undergoes multiple rounds of testing, both in-house and at independent third-party laboratories. Here's a brief summary of tests we conduct:
| Test | Purpose |
|---|---|
| Organoleptic | Confirms appearance, aroma, and texture consistency |
| Gallic Acid Qualification | Chemical marker of successful purification |
| Fulvic Acid Content | Confirms bioactive potency and standardization |
| Heavy Metal Testing | Tests for Lead, Cadmium, Arsenic and Mercury to ensure no risk of heavy metal toxicity |
| Microbiological Testing | Tests for Yeast, Mold, and pathogens (E. coli, Salmonella, P. aeruginosa, Staphylococcus aureus) |
| Pesticide Residue | Ensures raw materials are safe as per USP |
| Aflatoxin Testing | Ensures safety against these toxic compounds |
| Gluten Testing | Ensures safety for gluten-sensitive individuals |
| GMO Testing | Confirms natural, non-GMO ingredients |
| Stability Testing | Ensures product maintains its intended quality, safety, and efficacy throughout shelf life |
Furthermore, we only manufacture our products in FDA-registered, GMP facilities that are regularly audited for food safety compliance.
You can review all the Laboratory Test Results and Quality Certifications yourself at link.
- Hormonal Support: Shilajit doesn't contain any hormones itself, YET it has the remarkable ability to increase Estrogen, Progesterone AND Testosterone levels. Clinical studies have confirmed these effects. That's because it's traditionally considered a hormone modulator, it doesn't randomly increase or decrease hormone levels. It brings hormones into balance.
- Bone Wellness: Shilajit aids mineral deposition in bones, a real plus for menopausal osteopenia, when bone density naturally declines.
- Cognitive Support: Shilajit supports mental and cognitive function. It has been traditionally used by students preparing for exams as well as older individuals looking for mental sharpness, better memory and focus. Studies show how Shilajit supports cognitive function as we age.
- Antioxidant Properties: It combats inflammation and oxidative stress thanks to its rich antioxidant profile.
- Mood & Stress Support: It contains natural forms of Magnesium and Zinc, minerals associated with balanced mood and the body's response to stress.
- Supports General Wellness: Supports immune function and digestive wellness via its fulvic acid content.
We could go on, but this article is getting quite lengthy.
Herbius® Shilajit is a build-you-up supplement. This means you may notice some effects within days while others will take longer to develop.
What You May Notice Over 12 Weeks
- Weeks 1–2: Steadier energy, better sleep quality, general sense of increased wellbeing.
- Weeks 3–4: Early changes in mood and stress management, subtle improvements in desire and interest.
- Weeks 6–8: Noticeable improvements in sexual function, increased personal satisfaction, better connection with partner.
- Week 12+: Consolidated and lasting benefits, improved stamina and endurance, greater confidence and joie de vivre.
Every woman is different so these effects may vary.
And naturally, if you're on medication, have a thyroid condition, or are under care for a health concern, check with your healthcare practitioner first.
In Ayurveda, Triphala itself is a revered herbal formulation with many traditional wellness benefits.
In this delicate process, a Triphala water solution is first prepared. The raw shilajit is dissolved in this solution and then filtered to remove impurities. This process is repeated up to 7 times. Finally, the water solution is evaporated slowly, leaving behind purified Shilajit.
According to Ayurvedic texts, Triphala both cleanses and activates the Shilajit. And laboratory analysis confirms this, tests show measurable differences after Triphala-śodhana. Gallic acid content (an antioxidant) in shilajit increases!
In summary, this specialist method (i) cleanses the resin, (ii) conditions it, and (iii) leaves an analytical trail you can verify in laboratory reports.
Fulvic acid is the "engine" and "delivery system" inside shilajit.
Shilajit contains minerals, humic substances, DBPs (dibenzo-α-pyrones) and more, but fulvic acid is the small, highly reactive fraction that actually moves nutrients into cells and helps them produce energy.
Without fulvic acid, your body would not be able to effectively absorb all the nutrients inside shilajit.
Fulvic acid is beneficial all on its own as well: it acts as a natural antioxidant and supports the body's inflammatory response, gut & immune wellness and ATP production.
So, more fulvic acid per scoop means you need less product for the same effect! Just make sure to buy from a trusted brand & always ask for lab verification of that number.
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…my grandparents wouldn't even say menopause, they called it 'the change'
…even as they grieve the loss of their youthful sexuality.
According to England's largest reproductive health survey (2023) with over 59,000 responses, pain during or after sex was the most commonly reported symptom among women aged 16–55.
My once 'brilliant, wonderful' orgasms have become 'small and underwhelming', the very saddest part of menopause
Not being able to orgasm is so frustrating! Worse than no libido, because you want to, but can't enjoy it.
Or it goes the other way.
It's gone like someone flipped a switch. I have zero interest! … I don't even think about it anymore.
I don't want to be 0/10 on libido. I went from 9/10 at 45 years to 0/10 at 47! It's heartbreaking.